In 2019 I, Elizabeth, moved in with my father. We started a new life together and immediately the stakes got higher.
During the pandemic, we jokingly called our antics together “JohnBeckerTV”. We “tuned-in” daily for new episodes managing health, elder finances, setting up a home, balancing motherhood and caregiving, taking an epic cross-country road-trip, and planning for life’s inevitabilities. We tried to make even the difficult stuff lighter with laughter and love, pretending some days we were characters in a zany, and touching father-daughter sitcom.
Now for real we are telling the story of how dad, at 101 years old, is still living a life filled with new kinds of learning and subtler adventures, and how he is still very much a father. It’s also my story, as a business leader who becomes an interfaith chaplain and family caregiver. It’s a story of how the two of us through our care partnership, have become unexpected advocates for veterans and veterans families.
It’s a story of resilience and RE-invention at any age. It’s a love story. It’s Never Too Late!
JBTV is a social media experience and also the home of a documentary film: The Dad Project: It's Never Too Late.
John Francis Becker was born in 1923 in Des Moines Iowa. He is currently 101 years old and lives in the North Bay, Sebastopol, CA in west Sonoma county, with me, his 50-something daughter, Elizabeth. His health is great for his age though finally his years are starting to catch up with him.
Until this year with the loss of his remaining sight, some minor surgery and a stay in hospital, his mind has been super sharp. Now he appreciates support with most everything as together we navigate him being newly blind at age 100!
Once a prolific periodical reader, John is still curious about everything - and particularly loves to be with family and tell stories. We both miss him even as recently as mid-2023 sitting for hours with maps and magnifying glasses. He is learning to see again with his hands. He was always known as Mr. Fix-It and had a world-class workshop in Pennsylvania where he fixed everything. Now he has put down his tools and concentrates on our new project together - getting our story out to others to inspire and encourage them to make the most of their later years!
John Becker TV has sharpened its focus on getting the word out that it’s never too late to live full and meaningful life. It’s also never too late for veterans and their families to apply for VA benefits and get the support needed with advanced age and need.
On November 10th, we are celebrating a 101-DERFUL man! And to really light some virtual candles, we are giving you a special 101-DERFUL Man playlist with hits from the big band era including many of the artists who played at John Becker’s father’s Central Emporium, in Northwest Iowa on Lake Okoboji, in the 20s 30s 40s and 50s. My grandfather Adolph died in 1962 and my father, his sister, my Aunt Betty, and my grandmother Rose, sold the building in 1967.
These band leaders and their bandmates were on the circuit playing other dance halls throughout the Midwest on lakes just like my father grew up on. Performers like Lawrence Welk (Wunderful, Wunderful). Like Guy Lombardo (Mr Wonderful, It’s A Wonderful Life, A Wonderful Year). And like Louis Armstrong.
Armstrong‘s huge 1967 hit, “What A Wonderful World” is the inspiration for this year‘s John Becker birthday theme “What a Wonderful Man/101-DERFUL Man”! (Say it out loud!)
And it’s also an invitation to you, to sing along with us and to remember to “see” the beauty in life, even if you might not be able to see some things anymore, because perhaps, like dad, the eyes are seeing less, or perhaps things are tragically hard, or perhaps we are best served by softening our eyes and looking in the heart (points to chest, points to heart) where love is all there is.
John F. Becker is turning 100 in 2023! I am his caregiving partner and daughter, Elizabeth. Together, we are making a film about his still-adventurous life, the dynamics of family caregiving, and the transformative power of accessing Veterans' Benefits!
We invite you to become part of The Dad Project: It's Never Too Late!
- and support Dad in telling his story, creating his legacy - a movement around his goal -
"No One Ages Alone."
We anticipate several funding and creative milestones, and in 2023 completed the first of what we hope will be a few documentary shorts, of the film. The first film entitled “8300 Miles“ highlights our 2021 Cross-Country Roadtrip. With your support, we will have the funds necessary to bring more of the story to you - including segments focusing on family caregiving, dad’s WWII service, his professional life as a food packaging innovator, and our VA benefits story.
John Becker loves to travel, to make things, to reuse things, to read and learn.
He is curious!
We are recently back from a week in Lake Tahoe at the home of some generous friends. There we walked the sugar pine forests, saw a mama bear and her cub, and flew on top of the waves on a very windy day on the lake. Dad loved every minute!
Every other year since 2015, Dad and I have embarked on a big adventure. As we traveled, we became closer and more ready to face the next steps of our lives.
2024-2025
Instead of taking a big trip in 2023, Elizabeth and John put all of our energies into making a big move from Oakland California where we lived in a house with 3 floors and lots of steps, into a short term rental in Sebastopol California, Sonoma County’s Russian River wine country.
Now that we have found out where we want to BE after considering moving out of state, west shore and Nevada sides of Lake Tahoe, other cities in the East Bay like Livermore, we have to find permanent house. With dad's WITH DAD‘S LOSS OF EYESIGHT, HE HAS BECOME LESS INTERESTED IN GOING PLACES AND MORE INTERESTED IN BEING WITH THOSE HE LOVES. Stay tuned as we turn our attention to finding the perfect home for Dad to BE!
2023
Where Will John Becker Go Next? - Vote for Your Favorite!
New Orleans, Louisiana - World War II Museum
Honolulu, Hawaii - Fort DeRussy - Hale Koa
Cross-Country Road Trip *Redux*
2021
JohnBeckerTV Cross-Country Road Trip
From California to New Jersey and Back
8300 miles!
2019
The Fall. The Recovery. The Move
Dad fell in CA and while not seriously injured, we decided to have him sell his home in PA and move west.
2017
The Danube Cruise
Budapest to Prague, then Road Trip through Germany and France, including Paris!
2015
The Rhine Cruise
Basel to Amsterdam, then Paris!
The Rosalynn Carter Institute for Caregivers was established in 1987 by former First Lady Rosalynn Carter to promote the health, strength, and resilience of all caregivers at every stage of their journey.
Learn more at https://rosalynncarter.org/
Redwood Caregiver Resource Center continues to provide services to family caregivers offering support and assistance to caregivers of adults with brain impairments through education, research, services and advocacy. Learn more at http://www.redwoodcrc.org/res.php
FCA provides services to family caregivers of adults with physical and cognitive impairments. Our services include assessment, care planning, direct care skills, wellness programs, respite services, and legal/financial consultation vouchers.
Learn more at https://www.caregiver.org/about-fca/
The Military and Veteran Caregiver Network (MVCN) offers peer-based support and services to connect those providing care to service members and veterans living with wounds, illnesses, injuries and/or aging. Learn more at the Red Cross website
Let us support you as you support your loved one. We can connect you with additional services such as:
Transportation to doctor visits, Family consultations, Information & referrals, Respite care, Simple meal preparation and errands, and much more. Lear more here
The CVSO helps veterans access State and Federal benefits that they and their family are entitled to. The CVSO also provides information and referrals to a wide range of services including housing, employment, and training.
Learn more here
Regardless of the care need, it takes leadership, know-how, organizational tools, sensitivity, and grace to pull off larger-scale care communities. There is no "one size fits all."
From The Chapalincy Institute (ChI)
In this clip, Elizabeth, John Becker's daughter, shares her personal story of dedication, love, and the challenges she's faced while caring for father. Caregiving is a journey that often goes uncelebrated, yet these caregivers have graciously allowed us a glimpse into their world.
Watch the full video here.
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